ABDL Exploration: Finding the Right Adult Diaper

Finding the right diaper can be a task. There are so many options and choices out there. It boils down what you want: look, feel, thickness, how often, and your budget. The budget can be a biggie, and so is finding the diaper that actually fits your needs.

Budget concerns for the Diaper Lover

The budget is certainly something to take a look at when getting your first package of diapers. I’ve seen them priced from 15.00 for a pack of 4, up to over 150.00 for a case of 80-100. Some companies will offer a ‘sample size’ of diapers will consist of 1-2 of the adult diaper selected and offered at a price of 5.00-15.00 for the sample size. While the cases definitely have the better pricing per unit – not all diaper lovers are going to be able pick up a case or two right off the bat. ESPECIALLY if you don’t know what kind of diaper you are wanting.

Those examples I’ve given above are for disposable diapers. There are options for adult cloth diapers out there, but you aren’t likely to find an inexpensive sample option. I see cloth diapers range from $25 to upwards of $60 for each one – I’ve seen a few pre-folded options for a bit cheaper in in lots of 4-6. The upside is that they are reusable. If that is the route you take, it may be a bit of a hurdle for the budget conscious – but would help in the long run since you don’t need a never-ending supply.

Some have the disposable income to get whatever package of diapers they want, whenever they want, and however many they want. That isn’t the situation for all concerned. Let’s face it, the adult baby, diaper lover lifestyle isn’t a budget friendly kink.  The sample size options are perfect for those that are just starting out, just exploring, or just like variety.

Factors for picking your Diaper

Picking the right diaper for you is very much a personal journey and experience – one that is fun to explore and test out. I’ve helped guide many diaper lovers through finding the right one for them.

Factors to think about:

You have to decide what you are going to use them for. This seems like a ‘duh’ question. But, it isn’t. Believe it or not some diaper wearers just like the feel of the diaper themselves and wont actually be ‘USING’ them. In that case, they can sometimes be reused a couple of times before tossed out.

You must decide the frequency of use. Are you going to be using them for their intended purposes? How often? Are you a 24/7 diaper wearer or trying to get yourself to that stage?

Do you seek a bulkier feel? Something that is loud and crinkly or something that is thinner and more discrete?

Do you want cloth or disposable adult diapers? Do you want the ability to roll it up and toss it out? Do you have the discipline to make sure you clean the cloth ones properly for re-use?

Do you want fun designs or just plain white ones? This one is more simple in nature, but still a decision nonetheless

Those are just a few factors to think about when selecting the right adult diaper for yourself.

Where do you find Adult Diapers

Plug the information into a search engine and you will find a plethora of places that offer different types of diapers and all sorts of fun things for your diaper loving self.  Bambino Diapers is a place you may hear me say frequently, some Etsy shops and even Ebay. My current ‘go-to’ when I need to get a variety for shenanigans is ABUniverse. You can pick up a single adult diaper for $6.00 with shipping being around $1 for the lowest option. (That is the price I currently purchased it at, that can change I’m sure…I don’t own the site, nor make any commission if you purchase from them, I just like them 😉 The lavender scented purple diapers are among my favorite for diaper lovers)

I make recommendations for diapers based on the factors I asked about above, but, honestly – I want my diaper wearers to be comfortable in what they are wearing. I want them to get the maximum enjoyment and use out of them.  Sure if you have some creativity you can create your own diapers from cheese cloth and feminine pads, if you have a slim figure you may be able to use the largest size of infant diapers or piece two of them together, you can use depends also. There are tons of options fulfill your diaper lover needs.

Finding the right diaper for you is one of the first steps with exploring the ABDL fetish and lifestyle.


If you have experience – what diapers are your favorite? What are your favorite sites to purchase them from? What would your advice be for first time adult diaper lovers?

Comment and join the discussion – and tweet me pictures of you in your diapers for an RT from me @abmommylillith or @mistresslillith.

Wearing your Diaper in Public

Wear your diaper in public – that simple command seems to strike fear in so many diaper lovers and sissy babies.

You love your diapers, you adore your diapers…you even wish that you could wear your diapers ALL DAY LONG. You probably go to work and just count down the hours to when you can run home and toss your business clothes aside for something much less restrictive. You are forced to professionally be in-control all day long, by evening – that control is given to your pamper – cloth, disposable, or plastic it doesn’t matter.

You long to just prance around, fancy and worry free, you don’t like controlling your bladder – you don’t like having to deal with the confines of adult clothes…the diaper is where you belong. You have gotten past your diaper denial and are all about your diaper acceptance.

But—when dinner time comes along, and you realize you need an ingredient…you find yourself in a bit of a debacle … can you just run out as you are to get the ingredient? Are you going to go to the store wearing your diaper under the adult clothes you have to put back on? Or do you wimp out and change because the intensity of the thought is simply too much?

Wearing your diaper in public is clearly something that excites you. You think about the day you’ll do it, or you’ll reminisce about the time you WERE brave enough to walk out the front door in your diaper and long to do it again.

What really has you so scared to wear your diaper in public?

Is it because it is thicker and bulky? Do you think it will be seen? Is it because when your diaper is on you have no control over your bladder and you fear that you may wet or worse…make a stinky in it in public?

If you are one that wants to grow your lifestyle and wear your diapers on a more part-time to full-time to 24/7 basis…you will eventually have to break that phobia. I am a diaper mommy that will make you go into the store, I am the mommy that will have you striking up conversations while you are emptying your bladder into your diaper.

You need to wear your diaper in public. It is something you need. Stop being so scared, stop keeping it all in your head…make the fantasy into a reality. Cross that line.

Go step out front and go on a walk around your place of residence right now – with your diaper … ON.

Sissy Baby Katie’s Transition

I have been wanting to discuss a fun little Sissy Baby with you.

She was actually VERY hesitant at first to have a blog about here, but a few months have passed since I asked and SHE came to me to ask if I’d tell her story. No pictures for this sweet little sissy baby.

She actually came to me with just a curiosity of diapers and diaper wearing. There was quite a bit of hesitation and work that needed to be put in so that she was much more comfortable wearing them. She was already a self-proclaimed sissy and loved the bras and panties and all things girlie – BUT, there was something missing for her. That something – she found when she slipped into her first diaper.

Teaching her to tinkle was no problem. I don’t find that to be a difficult task for most. You can get over that fear and teach your bladder to just LET GO quite easily when given proper direction from an experienced abdl mommy such as my self.

Getting her to go #2 proved to be a bit more difficult, but over the course of a few months, she knew what was happening when the diaper was put on her.

She started out not wanting to wear them at work HOWEVER when you are going the route of total incontinence training, you have to understand that there is no turning it off and on…incontinence is exactly that. Please look up the definition, if you can schedule incontinence time, you aren’t really incontinent. LOL You just have scheduled diaper time.

So, we began molding her in a way that she WOULD wear those diapers at first. Now she has no problem using those diapees no matter who is around, or what she is doing.

The next step with my Little Sissy Katie was to add onto her baby training – that included sissy baby talk and a few sissy baby activities. There is always something she is working on.

One day the most amazing thing happened with Little Miss Katie….She called me up and from a very cutesie little voice I heard “Mommy…I’m a baby” – I was giddy with excitement and beaming with pride over my fully babyfied sissy girl!

When something just clicks, it clicks. It is always interesting to me to see how hesitant some are. In most of these cases I am more of a sensual ab mommy – just letting the pieces fall where they may. But, I am an excellent read with knowing the path they should be on. She is on that path quite nicely. I am excited to see how Little Sissy Baby Katie continues to grow – or rather…un-grows. 😉